Empathy vs. Emotional Reasoning -What is the Difference?

Submitted by Michael C. LaFerney RN, PMHCNS, BC, Ph. D

Empathy vs. Emotional Reasoning -What is the Difference?

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Mr. Smith, a 25-year-old male, has been diagnosed with testicular cancer. Upon hearing this, a nurse on his unit immediately requests a psychiatric consultation for depression. The psychiatrist goes to see Mr. Smith who expresses surprise at his being seen as depressed. In fact, his mood had been rather upbeat after his physician informed him that his tumor was localized, had not spread beyond the initial site and his prognosis is excellent. (In his case, a 5- year survival rate of 99.5 percent for localized cancer) 1

After the psychiatric consultant left, Mr. Jones began to doubt his positive feeling about his cancer. "Maybe it's more serious than I thought, if they think I'm depressed," he thinks to himself.

Decision Analysis

Was the nurse right in putting in for a psychiatric consultation? Mr. Jones did not express any feelings of being depressed. He was eating well, sleeping, had maintained an active interest in his job and hobbies. He had no suicidal ideations. And he was positive he could overcome his illness. While initially shocked to hear the diagnosis and showed concern about his future, he was immediately relieved when given education about his type of cancer and good prognosis. When the nurse on the unit was asked why she felt a consult was necessary, she replied, "It is a very serious disease.

I'd be depressed if I were diagnosed with cancer. I was being empathetic."

Despite her good intention, the psychiatric consultation was not helpful and may turn into a self- fulfilling prophecy. Mr. Jones is now worried and anxious about the cancer and is having difficulty sleeping. The nurse mistook emotional reasoning for empathy.

Separate Definitions

Empathy is defined as the ability to understand another person's circumstances, point of view, thoughts and feelings. When experiencing empathy, one should be able to understand someone else's internal experiences.2 Empathy involves communication. Trying to understand what another person is experiencing without communication leads to interpretation without meaning. It becomes a mechanism of internal thought processes rather than an understanding of another's point of view or feelings.

The nurse inferred the patient was depressed based on her feeling: "I'd be depressed so he must be too." She didn't attempt to verify his thoughts or feelings as similar to hers or attempt to understand what he might be experiencing. This was a cognitive distortion on the part of the nurse. It is mind reading when one person proposes to know what another person is thinking or feeling. 

Emotional reasoning is defined as "a cognitive error whereby a person who is nervous or anxious resorts to emotional reactions to determine a course of action."3 In this scenario, the nurse's own anxiety is projected upon the patient who is then subjected to an unnecessary assessment. It becomes harmful to him as he now may think, "I not only have cancer but I have depression too - a double whammy!"

Being Empathetic

What can a nurse do to truly be empathetic to patients?

  • Remember empathy without communication is mind reading
  • Listen to patients and allow them to express their feelings
  • Reflect back what you hear so they can clarify their thoughts
  • Don't be judgmental
  • Don't say, "I know how you feel"
  • Make eye contact
  • Provide education, but don't give advice
  • Be knowledgeable about their illness
  • Acknowledge their right to feel as they do.

This is an essential step in showing you are trying to understand If a patient voices depressed feelings or meets the established criteria for a depression or a depression-related disorder tell him you would to like to request a psychiatric consultation as you are concerned about how his mood could interfere in rehabilitation or recovery. This suggests concern.

What are the Symptoms for Depression?

4· Depressed mood. Loss of interest/pleasure.Weight loss or gain.Insomnia or hypersomnia. Psychomotor agitation or retardation.Fatigue.Loss of concentration, Feeling worthless or excessive guilt. And thoughts of death or suicide. Must occur over a period of time and cause distress.

In Conclusion

Nursing can be an emotional profession. One can see the ravages of disease or the wonder of cure. Whatever the outcome, nurses best help patients when care is based on communication, scientific research and intellect rather than emotion that results in faulty cognitions.

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  2. (2024) Cherry, K, VeryWell Magazine, What is Empathy? How It helps strengthen our relationships. Taken from the WWW !8 November2024 at:https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-empathy-2795562
  3. (2024) McAdam,Emma, Therapy in a nutshell, Emotional Reasoning- The Cognitive Distortion that Makes You Emotionally Reactive – Anxiety 18/30, Taken for the WWW November
    19. 2024 at; https://therapyinanutshell.com/emotional-reasoning/
  4. (2024) MDCALC, DSM-5 Criteria for Major Depressive Disorder, taken for the WWW on November 2024 at:https://www.mdcalc.com/calc/10195/dsm-5-criteria-major-depressive-disorder